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Name: Lainie D
Comments: Hector is so blessed to have been loved by you in this life...and that you continue to love him in death.
I am so sorry for your loss...
With love...

Name: Evelyn Maldonado
Location: Puerto Rico
Comments: Dear Wendy

Thank you for creating such a beautiful memorial for my brother. One day we will all be together and enjoy each other's company.



Name: Evelyn Maldonado
Location: Puerto Rico
Comments: In Memory to My Brother:

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He is my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was right.

The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

W. H. Auden

Name: James Ekholm
Location: Boca Raton, Fl
Comments: Hector was my friend and I am proud that he was. Always professional, always focused and yet warm and loyal to those he called his friends. We think and talk of Hector often and he is greatly missed. Thanks for creating this memorial to Hector. Somehow he knows and is pleased. Jaimito

Name: Wendy
Location: Sydney
Comments: Hector was the best thing that ever happened to me.

I will always love him.

Name: Lisa
Location: Minnesota, USA
Comments: Dear Wendy,
What an absolutely beautiful memorial. I lost my husband unexpectedly a few months ago and in my desperate search for help and understanding I came across & became member of 'Widownet' I continue to check out the memorial sites created for those loved and lost and they are all so beautiful but your memorial to Hector is one that truly stands out. Surely Hector would be so honored that you created such a wonderful tribute to him. I read every page and listened to every song....and let the tears flow as I thought about not only your loss, but my own.

Thankyou so much for sharing such personal thoughts and experiences about your love, life, and loss.


Love Never Dies

Name: fredie
Location: pretoria - south africa
Comments: Dear Wendy, I did not know Hector, but just reading your website and your lovely poems has helped me in my grief. I too lost my soulmate 20 months ago and miss him dearly.

Thank you for you help

Name: Alice
Comments: I have been chatting with you for months since the death of my husband in July. I met you on the grief support group. I have just now looked at your website and it is sooo beautiful. What a tribute, and what a way to express your feelings. I felt so much comfort from reading, knowing that I am going to make it. I understand it is a hard path, but I will make it, I have to. Thanks for sharing this wonderful site. Love You, Alice

Name: Melissa
Comments: I just spent quite a bit of "work time" going through the entire site - I thoroughly enjoyed and related to so much of it - you did an amazing job and Hector would be proud....


Name: Kathi
Comments: I don't normally write to many people online, but I happened onto your site and felt compelled to reach out and connect with you. Your love is unmistakable, and your grief is all to familiar. You see, I found your website as I was looking for a way to remember my Hector Maldonado, who passed away unexpectedly last November at the age of 37. Your words seem to come out of me. My loves grave site bears the poem "They say memories are golden, well maybe that is true, I never wanted memories I only wanted you...." so you can see why I felt a tug in my heart when I saw your site. I've appreciate your words about your experience and I thank you for sharing your grief, as it has made an impact upon me. Thank you for sharing your Hector, he was, and is, as special my Hector.

Name: Joan
Location: Minnesota
Comments: What a beautiful memorial. I lost my husband a year ago and I feel I have a long way to go in the healing process. I found a lot of helpful information on your site. You have given me hope that I will heal with time. Joan

Name: Allan
Location: Indiana
Comments: Wendy, what a beautiful memorial. I recently lost my wife of more than 52 years. I have been writing some stories and poetry, but it pales in comparison to your work. Wow most of us only dream about being loved so completely as Hector was.

Name: Janet
Location: Ontario
Comments: I did not know Hector but want to say that he was/is incredibly fortunate to have such a loving relationships. This memorial is a beautiful tribute to him and also a resource and help for others who are grieving. Thank you for being able to express your feelings so openly so others can benefit from your knowledge and insights.

Name: Karen R.
Location: Alabama
Comments: Some people never experience the love and devotion you still feel for Hector their whole time on this earth. I'm sure he knew what a lucky man he was. I hope you can continue your journey through the healing experience. I lost my husband, Terry, 01/14/09 and it seems like eons. It's hard to imagine life without him. I too amd "going through the motions" always hoping things will get better. Good luck to us both.

Name: Jo Paul
Location: Independence, MO
Comments: Wendy,
I have been chatting with you for several months now on Griefnet, and Allan actually gave me a link to this website because something I said in an email reminded him of this website. It has taken me about 10 hours to be able to get through everything here ( LOTS of stopping because my eyes were filled with tears) This is one of the most beautiful sites I have seen. Thank you for sharing all of this with us. Hector would be very proud of you.

Name: Anne
Location: Connecticut
Comments: Wendy, I have been on Griefnet since my husband passed away in June 2008. I will miss your notes there. This is a beautiful tribute to Hector. Anne

Name: Patty
Location: Harrisburg, PA
Comments: Some way you found what is in my heart and wrote about it. Mine is a broken one. Only someone who loved and was loved could say it all as well as you have. Thank you for sharing.

Name: Janet
Location: Indianapolis IN
Comments: I love your site. You are very gifted. I know that you are helping more people than you will ever know. Thumbs up

Name: Holly
Location: New Orleans, LA
Comments: Wendy, the love between you and Hector is so beautiful. May you feel him coming ever closer to you with each passing day. Love, Holly
PS: He is so handsome.

Name: Lourdes
Location: Washington state
Comments: Wendy, I am so sorry for your lost. My heart is truely with you. I was Hector's girlfriend for three wonderful years and I very much understand your pain. My beloved husband and father to my only daughter recently died. I was doing research over the internet to find my husband's biological father and this is how I came across the fact that Hector had died. Before I was able to find my husband's father he suddenly died too. He had undiagnosed leukemia. Dearest Wendy, I understand your pain. Hector was the very first love of my life. I was 18 and he was 23. We studied in the Inter-American University together. I would like to get in contact with you. There is so much I would like to tell you about your beloved. My deepest sympathy at the lost of this wonderful man. Please e-mail me. Sincerely, Lourdes.

Name: Justine
Comments: Well done. (tears)

Name: Joanne
Location: North Carolina
Comments: How beautiful Wendy. I can relate to almost everything you've written. Life will never be the same but we will go on and do the best we can. Bless you for all the beautiful words you share.

Name: Patti
Location: Syracuse,NY
Comments: Wendy, I know Hector is proud of you, You have written a beautiful tribute to him. Life must go on and it will be what we make it. Thank you for sharing this site with us...

Name: Glorya Wilson
Location: Texas
Comments: Wendy, What an awesome tribute that you have done for Hector. This was awesome to see and read. God Bless you in this journey that none of us signed up for. It is the hardest road I have ever traveled, but you many times have took my hand through emails and helped me take another step to life.

Name: Daniel Kim
Location: New York City, New York
Comments: Wendy, much love and support for your loss. Believe in Jesus Christ and KNOW that you will meet him one day in paradise that is NOTHING compared to the earthly life you should have with Hector. I can see you loved him a lot. Memories ARE golden.

Name: Kathi Jo
Location: Ft Lauderdale
Comments: Its been 4 years since I lost my Hector. I still stop by just feel again. He was my one and only. I thanku for this site, and I have told u that before. But somedays are harder than others. Today is a hard day. And I thank u for making me feel. My Hector was the only one who really made me feel. it may sound dumb, but it was our truth. Thank u again for keeping this site to your Hector.

Name: Cendra
Location: Ann Arbor
Comments: The beauty of Hector's soul shines on through you, Wendy.

Name: Evelyn
Comments: I thought that love would last for ever: I was right.

In memory of my Brother, Hector, you will never be forgotten.


Name: James Ekholm
Location: Boca Raton
Comments: Seems like only yesterday but he left us 8 years ago. We still remember and talk about Hector quite often. Hector was just a man but he continues to touch lives with his memorial. Thanks Wendy . . . Jaimito

Name: machaboy
Location: Tanzania
Comments: So sorry Wendy(tears) that's good work my dear! Hector will be so proud of you.

Name: Debi
Location: Houston, TX
Comments: I lost my husband July 8, 2005 and still ache for his touch, his smell and every part of him. I am sorry for your loss. I wish I could say it will be easier with time, but I have not found it to be that way. I can say that as time goes one I miss him, but know he is there watching over me. I hold on to the last words he said to me, Baby doll, I will wait for you on the other side it something happens. I am waiting for the day we meet again.

Name: Net
Location: Nigeria
Comments: this site is awesome, Hector was so blessed to have you. wish to do same for my late elder brother.

Name: TaosNM2u
Location: Taos, NM
Comments: Your letter to Hector touched my heart. The love of my life died in January 2013 in a tragic car accident. Our love was intense, passionate, comfortable . . . . but also had to be incredibly private. It wasn't need and tidy. We were both married and wanted each other . . . but never wanted to hurt the others family. He helped me rediscover the passion that burns within me. I so miss his touch . . . his smell . . . his voice. I wish that after 14 months I could say that I don't cry . . . but I do. I trust that when I cross over he will be there waiting for me . . . . waiting to envelope me in his arms and we can resume where we left off. There is a song by Regina Spektor that speaks to my heart . . . . it is called "How" . . . bless you.

Name: Isaac
Location: Mexico
Comments: This is the most beautiful letter i have read, you must have loved him sooo much im glad true love still exist in this world

Name: Mohamed
Location: Morocco
Comments: Thank you so much for this Love
I am Never fell in Love and i want to discover This feeling

Name: O'dree
Location: Johannesburg
Comments: My woman alienated me for sometime now but two day ago she replied my mail... So I went out in such of a proper reply and guess what a found--- this your project in honor of your Hector...I Got these strong feelings for her and found this your website so connecting to what I feel for Jameelah but cant compare myself to you dear... At least I know is she out there and haven't given up on the fight to restore us... But how about you my girl- longing to get back to somebody whose Doors where all closed!! Its so touching cuz I thought I felt pain buts its nothing compared to what you feel no matter how many years you gona live before you follow him on the path that he took... Thanks for this cuz am liking every bit of it... Saving everything in my files so it gets easy for me to read over and over... Get strong as I also get stronger in this quest to get back my Jameelah...

Name: outhman
Location: Bujumbura burundi
Comments: Hi!.Wendy, I didn't know Hector, but when I took the time for reading your website & your lovely poems has been helped me in my sorrow.
Thank you. for your help
Hatungimana outhman burundi

Name: Cendra
Location: USA
Comments: Every time I come here, your site is new, just as every time you miss him, the hurt is new. Through knowing you, I've come to miss him, too.

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